Hope….

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 Figure out how you want your life to look. People often struggle to hope for a better tomorrow because they don’t know what it might look like. Before you can have hope it might be necessary to first figure out what type of life you imagine as the most desirable. Take some time to consider your ideal life and what it would include.

  • Ask yourself: “If I could wake up tomorrow and have any life, what would it be like?” Think about as many details as possible. What would your house look like? What would your friends be like? What kind of activities would you participate in?
  • You may find it helpful to write out your vision for your life so that you can review it and revisit it from time to time.

Compare your ideal vision to your present life circumstances. After you figure out what kind of life you would like to have in an ideal world, compare that life to your present life circumstances. Doing so can help you to determine what areas of your life are already in line with your vision, or if you are headed in the right direction.

  • For example, if you envision yourself 40 pounds thinner, consider what you are doing right now to get you to that goal. Are you eating healthy foods? Controlling your portions? Exercising regularly? What do you need to move closer to your vision?
  • As you reflect on your life, consider your current circumstances. Have any of the aspects of your ideal vision already been manifested in your life?

Consider whether you have realistic or unrealistic expectations for your life. In order to have hope, it is important to make sure that the vision you have for yourself is realistic. If your vision is not realistic, it may cause you to feel hopeless. Consider your vision for your life and try to determine if your vision is realistic. If not, you may need to make some adjustments so that your vision is something that you can achieve.

  • For example, imagine your vision is to be a millionaire, but you don’t know what type of job you would want to get you there. In this case, you should consider starting with goals that are more relevant to your current life conditions.

Set some goals for yourself. Having goals to work towards is one of the best ways to have hope. After you have developed a vision for your life, take time to set some goals. Write your goals out and work hard to achieve them. To improve your chances of reaching your goals, make sure that the goals you set are SMART goals. This acronym stands for the following features:

  • Specific—the goal is targeted rather than broad and/or vague
  • Measurable—the goal can be quantified (measured with numbers)
  • Action Oriented—the goal is something that you can actively work towards and control
  • Realistic-the goal is something you can actually achieve with the resources available to you
  • Time Bound—the goal has a beginning and ending or a deadline that you will hold yourself to.

Just keep in mind this advice and you will help develop hope. My courage post helps as well. Contact me for any help here is a video that can help with starting off your hope.

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How to have COURAGE…

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Embrace your fear. Being courageous means doing something despite the fear. Fear comes from the body’s natural response to the brain’s fight or flight response. The brain sends cortisol, a stress inducing hormone, throughout the body’s nervous system, making the body go into hyper-drive. Fearfulness is a learned behavior, based in our brain chemistry, but strengthened by the world around us that has trained us to be fearful. Learning to work through fear and step beyond it is about retraining your mind.

  • Avoiding fears actually makes them stronger and scarier. There’s a certain mindset in Western culture that views emotions as weakness and seeks to suppress them. But suppressing negative emotions only heightens the fear of the negative emotion itself, strengthening them the more they are avoided.
  • Exposing yourself to things that you fear (while being sure to stay safe and be smart about it) can help the brain become desensitized to the fear and make it easier for you to face.

Try not to hesitate. The longer your brain has to come up with excuses for not being courageous, the more time you will have to panic about hypothetical negative outcomes. If you are in a situation where you have to pick up a spider, jump out of an airplane, or ask someone on a date, do it without hesitation if you’re going to do it at all.

  • Reinforce your successes by giving yourself a reward when you do deal with your fear. This could be a physical treat, like a nice bottle of wine, or a mental treat, like taking a break from human interaction and binge-watching a show on Netflix

Learn to be mindful,Being mindful is when you are fully present in the current moment. Mindfulness can help change your brain to deal with fear in a more effective manner. You have to give yourself time to learn this skill and it takes practice.

  • Meditation is one way to help improve your mindfulness. Find a quiet place and sit comfortably. You can meditate on the bus, at an airport, or any busy place, but it is best to start by learning in a quiet place with few distractions. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing (thinking “in” when you breathe in and “out” when you breathe out can help with that focus.). Do this for twenty minutes. Be aware of the moment and of your sensations. If you do find yourself becoming distracted with other thoughts, direct your attention back to your breathing.
  • When you do find yourself overwhelmed by fear, using the practices learned from meditation and mindfulness can help you overcome. Focus on your breathing and take deep breaths. Allow yourself to feel the negative emotions, but label them as emotions you are having (for example: if you are thinking, “I am afraid,” rephrase it as, “I am having a thought that I am afraid.”). It’s a subtle distinction, but one that helps you not to be ruled by your thoughts.
  • Visualizing your mind as the sky and your emotions, both positive and negative, as clouds passing across the surface of the sky can help you see them as being a part of you, but not dictating your life.

Get outside your comfort zone. Stepping outside your comfort zone may cause anxiety, but it’s a great way to learn courage. Doing something you don’t normally do helps you cope with the unexpected, which is where fear often springs from. Learning to deal with that fear, in a situation you have chosen, can help you perform courageously when the unexpected happens.

  • Start small. Start with the actions that induce less fear and require less courage to accomplish. So, send a friend request on Facebook to that girl you like, or have a small conversation with the person behind the register before moving on to asking someone out.
  • Know your limits. There are certain things that we just cannot do. Maybe you absolutely can’t pick up that spider, come out to your homophobic boss, or go skydiving. That’s okay. Sometimes these are fears or limitations that can be worked up to and sometimes they aren’t. Sometimes it is highly adaptive not to be courageous; it may not make sense to do something you can’t get yourself to do. Focus on building your courage for other things, like putting a glass over the spider so someone else can take care of it, or coming out to your parents instead of your homophobic boss.

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3 Ways To Be Yourself!

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This image describes exactly how no one is perfect and shouldn’t be ashamed of who they are. 3 ways to be the best you:

1. Get in touch with your inner child.

If you ever watch small children, you will notice just how free they are and how little they care about what other people think of them. They are happy and in the moment.

They are their true natures. They have not yet been socialized to “fit in” to a society that squashes that. They don’t care if people think that they are silly while they dance in the front yard for all of the neighbors to see.

Children are just pure love and light. If you really want to get in touch with your inner child, become freer. Play, have fun, enjoy the moment, do cartwheels in the front yard.

My son has taught me this more than anything. He has helped me to see just how stiff and serious I can be. Thanks to him, I have tapped back into something that was forgotten.

We play roles to fit into society and we suppress our true nature out of fear of what others think. If you find yourself worrying about being judged, remember that is merely just the socialized you, not the real you.

2. Become more aware of your thoughts.

You may be shocked by the number of negative thoughts that run through your mind on any given day. After so long, our reality begins to take shape based on all of these conditioned thinking patterns.

Become more aware of the quality of your thinking. Allow yourself to sit quietly every morning before starting your day for just five to ten minutes.

Yes, thoughts will come and go, but just allow them to do that without getting attached to them. Just observe them. When you are finished, continue observing the mind throughout your day.

We have so many unconscious beliefs that we have taken on over the years that were probably handed down to us from somebody else, and that we believed to be who we are. Becoming more aware of the quality of your thoughts, letting go of the old beliefs, and becoming more present can help in revealing your true nature.

We are all so much more than those old negative thinking patterns would ever allow us to believe.

3. Follow your intuition.

This is probably one of the most important factors in being yourself. I ignored my intuition for the longest time because I felt so obligated to others. Their happiness was more important than my own.

I lived at home until I was twenty-five, ignored my urges to move to a new city, and stayed in unfulfilling jobs because I was so afraid of what other people would think of me, of failing, and of stepping out of my comfort zone. Because of this, I was incredibly unhappy.

I will tell you this, from my own personal experience: When you start following the little nudges and urges that you get, you will have hopped onto the magic carpet ride of awesomeness.

It doesn’t mean that you will never have bumps in the road again, but when you are in alignment with your soul, you will always be steered in the best possible direction.

For me, it started when I followed my intuition out of a job where I was miserable, which was way out of character for me. I had nothing lined up, but thanks to my intuition, I landed back on my feet within a few months in an awesome new job.

Now, before you go quit your job, you can begin with small things, such as following through when you feel the urge to make a phone call, send an email, or take a different route to work. When you get into the habit of doing this with small things, it will make it easier to say yes to the big things, and to trust.

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Follow Your Dreams :)

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Dreaming is good. More importantly, it’s good for our soul – for in dreaming we’re inspired to pursue a purpose beyond ourselves. Following your dreams and actually accomplishing them will make you feel great about yourself. You will feel like you did something in this amazing world. One song that helps us with some inspiration that makes us feel good about ourselves and not care is “follow your dreams” by Sheryn Regis. Your dreams are the ones that give you purpose to want to live. I chose this topic for this post because me following my dreams is my motivation. I  want to see the faces of the people that didn’t believe in me when I was younger  wrong. Always say to yourself “I believe in myself and I will succeed”.

My mom always encourages me to not give up on my dreams. So in giving thought to some of my own, here are ten reasons why you too should consider having dreams.

And maybe you can also think about how to make them a reality:

#1. Dreams help to develop faith

Following your dreams keeps you in touch with a childlike faith that believes the unbelievable, and sees the possible in the seemingly impossible.

#2. They keep you from being risk averse

Following your dreams helps you in learning to trust, take risks, and be willing to step out of your comfort zone without fear of failure.

#3. They keep you unique

Following your dreams prevents you from simply fitting in, going with the status quo, and becoming comfortable.

#4. They’ll help change your perspective

Following your dreams helps you to acknowledge and appreciate the experience of past failures and value them as learning opportunities.

#5. They’ll keep you thinking big

Following your dreams helps you to identify and overcome the limiting beliefs that hinder you from reaching your God-given destiny.

#6. Your dreams will encourage action

Following your dreams moves you from being a spectator to an initiator.

#7. You’ll have opportunity to show courage

Following your dreams helps you to grow in stature and character as you move beyond the known.

#8. You’ll be more motivated

Following your dreams energizes you, giving you a reason to get out of bed every morning.

#9. Pursuing them will require new learning

Following your dreams helps you to develop new skills as you’ll be required to do things you’ve never done before.

#10. Your dreams can serve the good of others

Following your dreams contributes something of value to others – for in stepping out, you yourself become an inspiration to those watching and listening to your message.

So why are dreams so important?

Having a commitment to pursuing our dreams is healthy, not only for us, but for those around us. For when we have them we’re more alive, vibrant, and hopeful of a better future.

When we look ahead in hope it inspires others and gives them permission to dream too.

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PEACE in an IMAGE?

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What is peace?

Peace is the freedom from disturbance; quiet and tranquility. Peace and inspiration can be received by a picture, music, or just being alone. How? Well, some images like this one can give you the inspiration you need to complete something you want or forget about the bad. It helps you get inspired because you don’t need to think at all to be soothed away. Music helps you by touching word that help you feel good. For example, Meghan trainers song “All about that bass” which gives an example of why not to fell depressed about your body. It talks about how men don’t just like skinny girls and to not worry about what size you are because you are perfect just the way you are.Sometimes being alone creates depression but you want to know something if you push yourself forward you will become a better person. Some steps that will help you on finding peace are:

1.  Learn to trust yourself.

“Relax and trust yourself”

Repeat that in your mind every morning.  Because the truth is, it all works out in the end.  Put your full trust in yourself by following your intuition and doing your best, and then move forward one step at a time with faith and confidence in the future.  Life will not forsake you.  Love, persistence and hard work combined rarely lead a person astray in the long run.

2.  Focus on what you’re learning.

If the road is easy and free of bumps, you’re likely going the wrong way.  The bumps in the road teach you what you need to know to progress down a path that is all your own.  Sometimes things have to go wrong in order to go right.  Sometimes you need to change a flat tire or two before you can move on. So basically your journey isn’t supposed to be easy, it’s supposed to be worth it.  To never struggle is to never grow.  There is no perfectly smooth road to anyplace worth going.

3.  Ease your expectations.

Life is under no obligation to give you exactly what you expect.  Whatever it is you’re seeking will rarely ever come in the form you’re expecting.  Don’t miss the silver lining because you were expecting gold.You must see and accept things as they are instead of as you hoped, wished, or expected them to be.

4.  Open up to someone you trust.

You aren’t alone; let someone special in when you’re in a dark place.  You know who this person is.  Don’t expect them to solve your problems; just allow them to face your problems with you.  Give them permission to stand beside you.  They won’t necessarily be able to pull you out of the dark place you’re in, but the light that spills in when they enter will at least show you which way the door is. Above all, the important thing to remember is that you are not alone.  No matter how bizarre or embarrassed or pathetic you feel about our own situation, there is someone in your life who has dealt with similar emotions and who wants to help you.

5.  Use hope to drive positive action.

The very least you can do in your life is figure out what you hope for.  And the most you can do is live inside that hope as you work for what you want.  Do not admire what you hope for from a distance, but live right in it.  Get deeply involved with the thoughts and activities that keep your hope alive and your intention possible. No, hope alone will not save you from despair.  Hope empowers you to strive and grow even when your circumstances are in shambles.  The road that is built with hope is more pleasant than the road built in despair, even though they both may seem to lead you to the same place in the short-term.  Accepting reality without giving up on what needs to be done to reach your desired destination in the long run.

6.  Move TOWARDS something instead of AWAY.

The same philosophy holds true when it comes to freeing your mind from a negative past.  By persistently trying to move away from what you don’t want, you are forced to think about it so much that you end up carrying it’s weight along with you.  But if you instead choose to focus your energy on moving toward something you do want, you naturally leave the negative weight behind as you progress forward. So instead of concentrating on eliminating the negative, concentrate on creating something positive.

7.  Take a few steps back.

Sometimes you simply need to distance yourself to see things more clearly. Which is also known as peace.

You are more than whatever is troubling you.  A very real part of you exists beyond your worries, beyond your doubts, independent from the troubles and frustrations of the present moment.  Step back and observe yourself as you experience each moment.  Be present.  Watch yourself as you think, take action, and experience emotions. Think of the most difficult challenge you face right now.  Imagine that it’s not you, but a close friend who is facing this challenge.  What advice would you give her?  If you could step back and, instead of being the subject, look at your situation as an objective observer, would you look at it any differently?  Think of the advice you would give your friend if your friend were in your shoes.  Are you following your own best advice right now?

8.  Give yourself time.

Take today breath by breath, one step at a time.  Never let trouble from the past make you feel like you have a bad life now.  Just because yesterday was painful doesn’t mean today will be too.  Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.  Today you have a choice to explore these parts of yourself.  Give yourself the needed time and permission to explore and heal.

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EVERY DAY IS…..

My name is Coraima Gomez and this is my blog called inpiration123. I decided on making a blog because I want to inspire people on anything and because I know so many people that have committed suicide or thought on it and want to inspire people on why not to commit suicide. I will discuss on the suicide topic every once an a while but this blog is mostly just on daily inspiration because daily inspiration [this means that I might post daily but not as much as this one, I will post like “keep your head up”] will decrease the possibilities if suicide. Suicide is mostly caused because the person feels “lonely” or “useless” and if I inspire people that feel like this than it will decrease suicide. If I inspire them than they will feel more motivated on living this wonderful life of theirs by enjoying every moment. I came up with the theme (Inspiration) and style (look) because everyone needs some kind of inspiration. Inspiration can motivate any one on any day because just one great comment to someone will brighten up their day. Every day is…. What? Well, Every day is a GREAT DAY. A great day for a nice big smile of yours because we all have those amazing pair of teeth that are hiding behind those lips.

Everyday is AMAZING! Every day is WONDERFUL! but most of all Everyday is…. INSPIRING! If you have a goal every day you are already inspired because you are planning to finish that goal by the end of the day. The smallest goal from getting out of bed for work or school to brushing your teeth is because you are inspired. Its because you want to make that cash to buy a house or car and take care for your body/dental hygiene. Even little things you do in life is because you are inspired. We all want to succeed in life. We all want to have that amazing job. We all want to have that great family. In order for that we need to keep our head up and continue every day and enjoy every moment of it because if not you will be down and will forget about that amazing dream of yours. I’m here to keep reminding you on that dream and on why not to give up.

LIFE…

Life is hard but we are here for a reason never forget this. Your life might be bad right now because of depression, suicidal thoughts, family, or even yourself. I said yourself because you might not be happy with your body, face or weight but if you get yourself down because of these things than you will always be down. Reminder: You have to love yourself first in order for you to love others. You have to work yourself up in this world it’s going to take lots of work but it will be worth it at the end. We weren’t just put here in this amazing world to eat, breath, and sleep but to have goals and push yourself forward. Everyday is HARD, everyday is PAINFUL but everyday is a step to SUCCESS. Everyday is what we call LIFE.

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